Why do you keep doing things you don't want to do?

You know something needs to change.

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Maybe you keep putting other people first. You avoid difficult conversations. You stay in situations that aren't good for you. You work harder when you're already exhausted. You say yes when you want to say no. Or you keep doubting yourself, even when you know better.

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You may have tried to change it.

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You may even understand what you should be doing differently.

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So why is it still so difficult?

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There is usually a reason.​

The way you respond today may have made perfect sense at an earlier point in your life.

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You learned how to cope. You learned how to keep the peace, stay safe, avoid rejection, deal with difficult situations or make sure things got done.

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The problem is that what helped you then may not be helping you now.

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And you can end up repeating patterns without really understanding why.

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Counselling can help you understand what is going on underneath.

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Together, we can look at:

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What you do
The behaviours and patterns you keep repeating.

Why you do it
What those behaviours may have been protecting you from.

What it is costing you now
In your relationships, work, confidence and wellbeing.

What you want to change
And what it might look like to have more choice in how you respond.

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You don't have to blame yourself for the way you've learned to cope.

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But you can decide whether you still need to cope that way.