Why do you keep doing things you don't want to do?
Perhaps you've been struggling for a while. You might be feeling anxious, unhappy in a relationship, lacking confidence or finding it difficult to cope with everything expected of you.
You may know what you want to change. You might even have tried to change it before. But somehow, you keep finding yourself back in the same place.
There is usually a reason.
The way you respond today may have developed because it helped you cope with difficult situations earlier in life. You might have learned to keep everyone happy, avoid confrontation, work harder or put your own needs last.
Those responses may once have helped. But they can become patterns that leave you feeling stuck.
I'm Nick, and at The Mind Mechanics I help people understand why they behave the way they do, what those patterns are costing them now, and how they might begin to respond differently.
Can counselling help me?
Counselling can be useful when something in your life isn't working and you want to understand it better.
You might be struggling with:
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Anxiety, low confidence or low self-worth.
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Relationship difficulties or controlling behaviour.
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Difficulty saying no, setting boundaries or asking for what you need.
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Stress, burnout or the pressure to keep everything together.
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Repeating patterns you understand intellectually but still find difficult to change.
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Difficult experiences from the past that continue to affect you.
You don't need to know exactly what's wrong before you get in touch. We can start with what's happening now and explore what might help.
What happens in the first conversation?
I offer a free 30-minute chat, by telephone or online.
It's an opportunity to talk about what's bringing you to counselling, ask any questions you have and get a sense of whether working together feels right for you.
There's no obligation to book further sessions. If you decide you'd like to continue, we'll discuss what you'd like to work on and how we might approach it. The decision is yours.
How does counselling work?
I won't simply tell you to think positively, try harder or stop worrying.
Instead, we'll explore what's happening underneath the behaviour. Why do you keep putting yourself last? Why is it so difficult to say no? Why do you keep taking responsibility for things that aren't yours to fix?
Understanding where these responses came from can help you see why they made sense at the time, why they may no longer be helping, and what you could do differently.
The aim is to help you understand yourself better and develop more choice in how you respond.
How much does it cost?
£55 a session (which last just over 50 minutes). My counselling room is in Offenham, just outside Evesham, with free parking. Telephone and online sessions are also available.
Ready to talk?
You don't need to have everything worked out before you contact me. Sometimes the first step is simply talking through what's happening and deciding what you'd like to change.
What does the room look like?
Quiet, warm and comfortable
30 min